Journeying back to me.

A recent goddess that I had in the studio expressed after her boudoir experience with me that she had found herself again. I immediately fixated on what she said and felt that it was in fact a profound and moving sentiment. Then I broke down how this experience transformed her life in a way that she could connect with herself again. So here are the things I noticed helped get her there:

She had the opportunity to do something that was completely for her. A concept that gets pushed under the rug all too often.
She was the star of the show and allowed herself to be pampered and gushed over.
Having physical proof of how magnificent and gorgeous she truly is.
Allowing herself to be free in a safe space to explore her sensuality and connect with a different side of herself.
Accepting that she was worth the investment she made in herself

The best part is I know I helped foster these feelings, and I am so deeply honoured and moved by it. Every boudoir session teaches me something new, and how to make this experience magical for all my clients. Understanding the effect it has on women, allows me to dive deeper into helping heal the wounds and let's face the hardships of being a woman.

This particular session inspired me to be curious as to how we as women end up feeling less than ourselves. I am not sure how many times I have heard the phrase "I've lost myself" or have felt the same. How do we even get to that point? Where life becomes so much about other people and things that it sucks the energy and our true identity right out of us. Do we just get too busy to honour ourselves or have we been conditioned to put ourselves last to be a good, wife, mother, daughter and friend? At what point do we start identifying the red flags of our self-neglect and realize that selfish isn't the bad word that it is said to be.

I think it's time women own our "selfishness" and figure out some healthy boundaries and proper self-care routines. We exist to experience life in a way to learn, grow and yes enjoy! I personally believe we need to honour our beings every damn day, in whatever way feels good to us. I encourage those selfish moments wholeheartedly. Putting our emotional needs first while taking care to balance our lives and focus on our own personal goals and growth is paramount to having good mental health.

Here are some of my fav ways to make sure I am putting my needs first and to help not get lost in that sea of self-neglect:

If it's not a fuck yes it's a fuck no ( obviously we need to discern with this one like my child still needs her butt wiped haha)
No is a complete sentence
Quiet me time is an absolute every damn day (bubble bath, reading etc)
Taking selfies and giving myself compliments all the time
Planning and doing the things in life that light my soul (planning dream trips, going to workshops, my dream photoshoots etc)
Setting clear boundaries with others and myself that support my needs and overall peace
Daily affirmations of my worth, and journaling is super helpful too!
Exercise at least 3 times a week and I play Slo pitch every summer

I would love to know how this blog post made you feel and if there are any takeaways for you. Or if you have some great tips on how to make sure you are honouring the true you, I would love to hear them!

My email is always open hello@goddess-boudoir.com

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